I Used Women And Now I Am Lonely
Posted by on Nov 21, 2009 - 12:49:20 PM
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I'm 18 years
old and trying to decide whom to spend the rest of my life with. I have
one guy that gives me anything I want and respects me. He's there when I
need him but he cheats. I have another guy that’s also the same but he
threatens me by saying if I do a certain thing, he’ll slap or punch me. I
worry about cheating with one and being hit by the other. How do I
Get rid of
these immature boys and choose yourself. A real man wouldn’t cheat or
beat on you. At your age, you haven’t had time to smell yourself much
less think about whom to spend your lifetime with. You deserve more than
these drop shots are giving you. Take advantage of your youth and work on
your values, your education and career and a deserving man will cross your path
in due time.
I used to brag
about being the world’s best lover. I was a man that used women to make
myself feel better. I played mind games, lied and had three or four girlfriends at a time. I now find
myself saved and lonely because people that know me still judge me and women
won’t give me a chance because of my past. How do I change this?
what you sowed. You had no business treating women like dirt. Being
saved doesn’t protect you from your nasty past life. You’re still going
to pay for your deeds and you can only move forward by being consistent.
You didn’t become a doggish lover overnight and your reputation won’t be fixed
overnight. Stay on the right path by living a God-filled life and your
light will soon shine bright.
I’m in high
school and losing my mind as I write
this letter. My sister lives at home and my mom makes me watch her kids
all the time. I can’t get my homework done, my grades are falling and I’m
trying to get a scholarship so I can get out of this mess. I want more
for myself but I don’t know how to tell my mother because she doesn’t seem to
Your sister is
a victim of the generational welfare chain. You’re heading in the right
direction by wanting to make something of yourself and not rely on the system
with a bunch of fatherless kids. Voice your opinions to your mom as you
strategically get her involved with your schoolwork. Once she sees your
grades and your aspirations for a successful future, she should change her ways
and help you achieve.
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