Ask Deanna!

Real People, Real Advice

Ask Deanna! Is an advice column known for its fearless approach to reality-based subjects!

Ask Deanna! can be heard every Sunday on KTYM AM 1460 at 3:00 p.m. in Los Angeles, CA.

Dear Deanna!

A good friend and I became lovers and our friendship was ruined in the process.  I had high hopes that our friendship was strong enough to bear any storm.  Before we started dating I was with someone else sexually.  I became pregnant and thought I was certain who the father was.  We were all shocked when the paternity test indicated a third man in my life.  I am torn inside, have lost my best friend and become a single parent.  How can I at least get my friendship back?

Tammie                                    Richmond, VA

Dear Tammie:

You have made a mess of your life and blazed a trail of destruction.  You should be embarrassed and ashamed of yourself with your recreational sex and loose morals.  Your friendship was lost the moment you became intimate and completely killed it with your pregnancy.  Right now your focus is required to raise your child and get yourself together.  If your friendship is meant to be then your pal will return.  If not, learn from your silly mistakes, grow up and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!

I’m a newlywed and I feel depressed now that I’m finally married.  It seems as if the excitement is gone and my husband is different than when he was a boyfriend.  He always tells me that he gave me what I wanted and to move on to something else.  The dates, gifts and spontaneous things have disappeared and it feels like I got a lot of work in return.  Is this normal for a new bride or am I setting my expectations too high?

Sad New Bride                                    Oklahoma City, OK

Dear New Bride:

You wanted to be married when you wanted to be married and your boyfriend went along with your demands to make you happy.  Instead of pressuring him, you should’ve let things flow and allowed him to get comfortable with the idea before taking the leap.  You can renew the spark in your relationship by taking the lead with creativity, a lot of love and focus on goals and the future.  Keep your husband involved and you’ll see him coming around slowly but surely.

Dear Deanna!

My girlfriend of two years destroyed me.  I learned that the entire time we were dating she was seeing someone else.  For a year she has been trying to pressure me into marriage but I wasn’t ready.  She ended her relationship with me and a few weeks later announced she was getting married.  I see the things she wanted and I’m willing to look like a fool to get her back.  She tells me that I blew my chances.  I feel desperate and want to know is there anything I can do to get her back?

Sean                                                     Memphis, TN

Dear Sean:

Instead of being a pathetic beggar open your eyes and see that your girlfriend was a cheating two-timer.  She played games with two men and chose the one that would marry her.  You can look like a fool if you want but if she cheated on you with another man once, she’ll do it again but next time things may be worse.  You shouldn’t allow a woman to have this kind of power.  Get yourself together, hold your head up and work through your pain and wait for the lady that’s meant for you.

Deanna M.