LOS ANGELES—It is well-known that one of the biggest and main obstacles in life for career and personal accomplishment is a destructive type of emotion called anger. An uncontrolled and unmanaged anger can easily get us in a lot of trouble and can also destroy relationships, dreams, and aspirations. Feeling angry about something bad that just happened to us or when someone has treated us badly is a completely normal reaction of human beings, but letting our anger control our lives is not a healthy or an intelligent decision.
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Having difficulties controlling our anger can lead us to develop medical problems and can also increase the risk of developing mental issues, including depression, substance and alcohol abuse, chronic anxiety, and eating disorders.
Controlling our anger or appropriately expressing it is not an easy task, but it can be done if we put in practice some anger management techniques. Next time you start feeling angry or really upset about something; (Stop), take a deep breath, get yourself out of the situation that made you angry, and after you are calmed down and relaxed, do the following:
1) Identify the situation that made you angry,
2) Once you have identified what or who made you angry, try to find or identify a possible solution for the issue in hand without accusing or pointing fingers,
3) After identifying and implementing a possible solution, move away from the issue and do not hold grudges, and then
4) Forgive and forget.
Following these simple techniques every time you feel angry will help you control and/or appropriately express your anger and not let it affect or control your life or the lives of those around you. If after practicing these techniques you feel that your anger is out of control or is having a negative impact in your life, I encourage you to visit a mental health professional who can help you and guide you to develop more personalized anger management techniques that in one way or another will help you live a positive, healthy, and (serene) life.
Remember, “Life is ten percent what happens to us and ninety percent how we react and deal with the situation.” Lou Holtz
About the Author:
Marielys Camacho-Reyes is a career/life coach with over ten years of experience in the human resources field and human relationships. If you would like to receive a one-time free coaching session visit her website at www.mcrcoaching.com or email her at firstname.lastname@example.org