Dear Lily: June 2003
Posted by Lily O'Hara on Jun 1, 2003 - 12:14:00 PM
I want to finish graduate school, but I am not able to meet the high cost of education. My parents are not wealthy, and I lost my job last month. What can I do? I have only one year to go before I get my second degree. Please advise.
Lost in paper work,
Go to the financial aid office at your university, and ask them for low cost loans and grants. You can also look for financial assistant online by going to http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/. Make sure you ignore any web sites asking you to pay money to join. I'm sure they will be happy to help you.
I have been happily married for twenty years. My husband and I have four lovely children - two boys and two girls. Last night my husband told me that he has an offer of a better job in Alaska. It pays three times what he is getting now. They will also move the whole family and give us enough to buy a house. I think this is a great opportunity for us, but the kids are against it because they don't want to move so far from their friends. Are we being selfish in wanting to take this job? We are in a dilemma. We are afraid this chance will never come again. The children are ages five, eight, ten, eleven. What to do???
Stuck in our home town,
The children are too young to make decisions for you, but if you sit them down and explain what this job may mean for all of you, I am sure they will change their minds.
In a few years they will be glad you moved. Right now it is understandable that they will miss familiar surroundings. Make an adventure out of the move. Let them read up about Alaska.
I am thirty years old and unmarried. I know it is due to my bad features. I have a big nose, bags under my eyes and drooping eye lids. Last month, I was in a car accident, and broke my nose. The doctor suggested I have a nose job, but I have not had the nerve to ask him if he will reduce it. It is so vain of me, I know, but the insurance will foot the bill. Should I do it?
Rosie, do it. Just being in the accident seemed to give you the opportunity. Talk to your doctor and ask him if the plastic surgeon will also fix the other problems you have. I really don't know why you took so long to do it. These days no one needs to suffer from bad features, though I think that no man or woman should be judged by looks alone. It seems so shallow of our society these days.
I have been going with a very nice man for two weeks. He has been the gentleman up until now. He asked me to move in with him. We have not had sex yet. I feel it is too soon in our relationship to think seriously. He promises that he will not badger me for sex if I move in with him. I also don't know how to tell my parents. I am only eighteen years old. There is something final about moving in with him. Should I be worried? Everyone else is doing it. He is thirty-two years old and has a very good job.
Frustrated in Beverly Glen.
I think you know the answer to that question because you have not known this man long enough to believe he will not bother you about sex. What are you thinking? No one moves in with a new boyfriend, unless they know the terms of the agreement will be met. You don't know this man well enough. He is older than you and he is counting on you doing what others do after you move in with him. Tell him no. You wouldn't marry him after only two weeks, why would you live with him? Tell him you need time to think this over, like a year or two. Maybe he will get the hint. You need to know more about this man, and if he still loves you in a year, get married. Then you will be secure. Talk it over with your parents, then do the right thing.
I just found out that I have diabetes and I am frightened to death. I know so many who have died with this disease. What can you tell me about this illness? I am taking pills for my number two diabetes. I am also overweight.
Take the advice of your doctor. Test your self three times a day and keep a log. Exercise daily. Walk a mile a day. Watch your diet. There are a lot of organizations who will send you information. Also there are magazines like Prevention and Diabetic Health that you can order.
A lot of stars have this disease. Mary Moore lived with it all her life. A dietitian will help you plan your menu.
By the way, if you want to get rid of this illness lose the weight, I have been told it reduces the numbers dramatically.
Don't worry, Wilma