Posted by Lily O'Hara on Oct 1, 2003 - 6:09:00 PM
Dear Lily, I have two boyfriends that I care about. I think of them both in the same way, and as to not cloud my decision further, I will not have a casual affair with either of them.
One is my "Mr. Wonderful," who makes my heart leap with delight. He is caring, considerate, enjoyable, and has a great sense of humor. I feel intoxicated around him. He works as a mechanic, but cares for his nails and his appearance. I am never ashamed of him, no matter where we go. He introduced me to his family and that night asked me to marry him. I told him I would think hard about it.
The other one is my Mr. "All I Have Is Yours." He takes me to the best places, he anticipates my every mood. If I mention Paris, we are on his private plane going there. He takes me every place and we do things together that only the rich could appreciate. He has tried to bed me often, but as I told you, "No way, unless I stay." He is fine with that, but always trying to change my mind. He asked me to marry him, but I told him I need time to think about it.
I grew up in a poor family, we had nothing extra to share with each other, except our hand-me-downs. This decision is driving me crazy. Both men could be "Mr. Right," but as you know, only one could be Mr. and Me. What should I do about them and whom do you think I should marry? I love both of them, but I only need one of them to make me happy.
Down and Out in Beverly Hills Dawn
Dear Dawn, This is a very hard question for another to answer for you. The first boyfriend is the most comfortable one to be with, but your mind keeps flashing back to your childhood and the lack of funds and pleasures. Which makes the second boyfriend seem more secure? Dawn, money is not everything. Just think, what if the rich boyfriend went bankrupt, what would be left of his personality that you love so much, and how would you take the endless struggle that would eventually tear you apart? Never marry for money! It never pays in the end. On the other hand, your other boyfriend is without riches. Can you live a normal happy life with him? What if he has to work late every night to pay the bills? Would you be the loving wife who waits for him to come home, too tired to even share his experiences and failures with you? Men and women play games when they are courting. No one ever knows what the other is really about until they marry and share responsibilities. Take your time about choosing, when the right man comes along, and you wait long enough, the wrong one will lead you to him. The answer will come to you soon enough.
Good luck, dear
Dear Lily, I am 19 years old, and don't know what to do with myself. My parents want me to finish college, but I feel the need to serve my country. I could finish college after I serve in the Navy, but my father says that if I finish college, I could serve my country better as an officer or in the government. I feel that the time is right to serve now. What is the right thing to do?
Dear Patricia, Your father has a point there, listen to him. If you feel that going into the service is vital, go to college and join the Coast Guard Reserves, and when you finish college and you still think you are needed, join the service of your choice. By that time you will be better equipped to serve this wonderful country of ours. I hope by the time you finish college, world peace will have been won, and the only service we will need is the service to our fellow man.
Good luck, my patriotic friend
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