Posted by Lily O'Hara on Nov 1, 2003 - 9:44:00 AM
Dearest Lily, I am having a very hard time dating. It has gotten to the point that most men look: First; for looks, Second: for sex Third: for someone who will be a willing doormat. I have not had a second date for the last four years. It is not that I am not attractive.
Friendless and Sexless Rosie
Dearest Rosie, You are the result of many years of women's lib trying to be macho. We have tried so hard to be equal that we have bypassed the code of morality. Most women nowadays have made sex an important commodity, in order to excuse their promiscuity and lack of control. I commend you on your wonderful ethics and there is a wonderful man out there who doesn't want a wife who has tasted the fruits of every other man on earth that was available. You are a woman worth waiting for.
Sincerely Yours, Lily
Dear Lily: My daughter is dating a real reject from outer limits. I have tried to tell her that she is headed for trouble. She is fifteen; an age that is really stubborn and peer-oriented. He comes to the house and parks in the street and honks for my girl. He is twenty-two and looks like a bum. What can I do to stop this tragedy?
Dear Abused Mother. First off, your daughter is under your rule as long as she is a minor. Call the authorities and have her 22-year guy charged with statutory rape. Try talking to her about her relationship and tell her she is too young to date without your permission. I do not blame the children for peer pressure, for they are supposed to be obeying the parents, and where has the punishment of grounding gone? Get your daughter back under your wings, and if that does not work try family counseling. I know parents have a hard job disciplining their children, but if you do it with love and really tough love, you will find it mostly works.
Truly Yours, Lily
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