McConnor's Corner
Your Cheatin' Heart
By Sean McConnor
Dec 1, 2002 - 8:42:00 AM

UNITED STATES — The old song by the late Hank Williams goes: " Your Cheatin' Heart, will make you weep, You'll cry and cry, and try to sleep."  If you are up late at night and watching KCAL-Channel 9 TV, you will see a show called "Cheaters"  that is intent on making certain that those who do cheat, "cry and cry, and try to sleep."

The show is the brainchild of Bobby Goldstein of Dallas, Texas, who is the executive producer of this program that is carried on television in 195 markets across the country. Goldstein is a former attorney who has fulfilled a lifetime dream of getting into the entertainment business.

Goldstein began writing plots for shows in 1991 hoping for that big break that many seek, but few achieve. He continued through 1995 and in 1998 the pilot for "Cheaters" was syndicated throughout the nation and has taken off since. Unlike in L.A., it is possible to view it all hours of the day and night throughout the country, not just late at night.

Hosting the show is a man resembling the character Kramer on the popular comedy show "Seinfeld". He is a tall, lanky fellow with a quiet, but persistent manner, again like Kramer. However, the comparison ends there for Tommy Grand, the host. Grand displays a sensitivity and compassion for the victim of a cheating husband, wife, partner, or significant other, that transcends the character from Seinfeld. He also displays a tenacity that makes one wonder when he is going to get punched by the "cheater".

Grand and his crew after listening to the complaint of the aggrieved person, follow the "cheater" in a van with detectives and cameras. When the nefarious one is captured in the act, they show the evidence to the victim of misplaced trust and allow that person to accompany them to catch the cheating one in the act. The consequences are really vocal and dramatic at times.

Goldstein was asked about his most bizarre case. "It has to be the one," he said, "about the cheating man who was known to carry a loaded gun all the time. They had to approach this gentleman very carefully."

Goldstein also said that about 85 percent of the cheaters and their victims consent to having their cases aired on the show. They are compensated slightly, but the real reason may be because they feel seriously about what has occurred to them. For that reason, too, some of them consent to do follow-ups of their cases.

If you are interested in the show or want more information, you can access the show's website ( If you are hearing impaired, you might be happy to learn that the show is now close-captioned. Now, no one will be denied the chance to see justice done when Tommy Grand and his crew drive up with cameras and catch someone doing the ultimate insult to a relationship: betraying trust, otherwise known as cheating. 

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