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Point of View

Breaking Traditional Expectations
Posted by Trevor Roberts on Jan 9, 2013 - 8:46:35 PM

UNITED STATES—There is a belief in today’s society similar to the 1950s, that the man is supposed to be the breadwinner and the woman is to stay at home and care for the children.  I find it so alarming in today’s society that my generation, as well as my parents believe this ideology still holds true.  Reality check, it doesn’t.  We no longer have to conform to the beliefs that have been instilled in American society from the dawn of time and why should we. 

 
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It’s always going to be in the nature of men to want to provide for their family and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that reasoning.  We are the protectors and we like our family to know that.  At the same time women are capable of doing the same thing, heck some women are raising kids without the father in the home so they have no choice. But for those of us that live in the traditional paradigm that so many think is holy in everyone’s eyes, change your way of thinking. 

 

For starters more and more women are playing a pivotal role in the workforce.  I can only imagine the pressure it is to have a 9 to 5, come home from work to cook dinner, clean the house and take care of the children.  It’s a lot; just talking about it is exhausting.  The argument for women can also be backed for men as well.  There are some women who will never step in the kitchen and they are not afraid to state it.  Men tend to be quite skilled when it comes to cooking.  There are some men who come home for a long shift and they prepare dinner for the family. 


The point I’m trying to make is that the expectations or chores that we assign to men and women should be equal.  We shouldn’t expect one sex to behave or perform a certain task because it’s been depicted in the media or we’ve grown up in families where it has taken place.  Same argument can be made for doing laundry.  Why in the world should a woman have to do laundry?  Let it be told I know quite a few men including myself that do the laundry, whereas the women never step foot in the laundry room.  The same can be said for doing dishes.  If you dirty a dish, it should be your responsible to clean the dish. 

 

My biggest gripe with traditional expectations deals with the idea of the workforce.  Both men and women work, it’s a given, but one party should not be expected to pay all the bills while the other sits back and enjoys the fruits of those labor.  Let’s say the guy is the breadwinner and for unfortunate circumstances an injury or unexpected situation prevents them from working, what happens to the household?  It’s in disarray. The other has been so relied on that notion there work skills have gone stagnant. 

 

It’s acceptable to see one party take a slight backseat in the situation of having kids, but some are ready to get back into the work arena when possible.  It sends a message to the child, hard work pays off in the long run and it has to be a balance.  As big of a role that the mother plays in child rearing, so should the father.  We don’t live in the 1950s anymore, its okay to do things that make you happy and go against the norm.  It makes you stand out, but more importantly it shows that you are a leader, not a follower.



 

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