Point of View
UNITED STATES—Being a parent is not an easy task, but even more difficult is to be the child on the receiving end of the parent. The parent thinks this; the child thinks that, it’s an ongoing battle where no victor will ever be crowned. You argue to argue to simply get your point across.
The parent has to at some point understand the child’s point of view, it has nothing to do with who has the most experience; the child is not necessarily asking the adult to agree with their perception, the child is asking the parent to listen to what they have to say, it’s a tale of understanding their point. In all honesty, the child could care less if they are proven to be right or wrong in the conversation, it’s about the parent listening to their voice.
Some parent-child relationships are like fire and gasoline; put the two individuals in the same room and fireworks are bound to ignite, just with a flutter of a few words. I’m speaking from personal experience, me and my father have a decent relationship, but no matter what “I Say” in his eyes, it’s not right. Granted, I am an adult and someone fully capable of taking care of myself, but I can never get the credit for those things.
It’s like being lectured for the sake of being lectured. If I wanted to hear a mini-lecture every single day, I’d head back to college; at least I’d be learning that would be valuable in my opinion. No one wants to be hounded continuously about the same thing; it’s like beating a dead horse, no matter how much you do it the horse ain’t coming back to life, the same applies with a conversation. Sometimes you can tell someone something a trillion times and no matter what you say, it will not register with them. When the time is right, the person will get it, until then you have to let it go.
The thing about parenting is each day you learn something new. You cannot purchase a book that is going to teach you the right way to parent your child. If you think so you’re following an ideology that worked for someone else, that doesn’t mean it’ll work for you. No two kids are made alike, ever!
To be a parent requires patience, understanding, compassion and trust. A child is never going to do every single thing the mother or father asks them to do; it just doesn’t happen, at least I have not seen it. Battles will be raged, wars will be fought, but in the long-run it all boils down to respect. The child must respect the parent, as should the parent respect personal boundaries of the child.
A parent can learn so much just by observing the behavior of their child, just as the child can learn so much by observing the parent. The child is an offspring of his or her parents; there are traits from both parties in the child, the sooner the child realizes that the better. The parent should also acknowledge those traits as well, all those pesky things you did growing up are likely coming back to bite you in the butt.
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