Thinking Before You Talk
Posted by Trevor Roberts on Jul 20, 2013 - 6:52:00 AM
UNITED STATES—It’s a phenomenon that I have questioned for years; why is it as human beings we never seem to think about what we’re going to say before we say it in everyday conversations? If we’re in the classroom, it appears the only time where we really take a moment to reflect on the answer we’ll deliver before we actually deliver it, but why?
Dr. House (Hugh Laurie).
Perhaps it’s the factoid that we don’t want to be humiliated in front of our peers. In the public sphere, we’ll carry a conversation with a friend, a family member or a complete stranger not taking into consideration what we’re actually saying.
Think about this for just one second. Imagine if before we spoke any words, any phrases, we took a moment to actually think about what we would say before we actually said it. How would that change things? For starters, the conversation would not be as fluid as we’d like them to be. Furthermore, we’d censor stupid or bad things that could potentially seek out into the public sphere.
So many people place themselves in hot water because of what they say and how they say it. Paula Deen has already suffered a multitude of endorsement losses because of her use of the N-word. As I pointed out before, it was not only what she said, but perhaps the carefree attitude she had about using the term that rubbed so many Americans the wrong way.
Having an inner battle with yourself about the terminology that you choose to use can open the doors for us to realize that we dish out so much idiotic banter it’s scary. We have to realize that little ones pick up each and every word that we spew. They’re in the learning stages and mimicry is primary portion of how they obtain new information to process in their ever-expanding minds that continue to grow and expand. Our words become their words, their words become a member of a new generation of slang.
Do I ever expect a day to occur where every single individual capable of thinking about what they’ll say before they say it will happen? To some degree yes, but ongoing not a chance; some people view it as too much work. We like to be able to freely talk or perhaps that’s our subconscious saying what we’re thinking without us really knowing what it is we want to say to begin with.
Its complicated, but anyone who has taken an introductory psychology course are familiar with the three parts of the self that comprises the human being, at least that’s what science states.
We’re told time and time again “To think before you act.” Perhaps its time for us to deliver the phrase, “Think before you talk” to the masses. So many people have landed in hot water because of their commentary and that bad thing is they don’t see anything wrong with it.