UNITED STATES—”Fifty Shades of Grey” was more KINKY for some than others and I surmise those shocked were living the missionary lifestyle.

Wikipedia defines the concept of KINK in a very understandable way: a deviation or “kink” in normal and standard “straight” sexual behavior. Since the word “standard” is defined using the words moral, acceptable, and desirable, it’s easy to understand why OTHER THAN ‘NORMAL’ sex is growing in a culture where religion is slowly diminishing in popularity.

BDSM has probably been around since the beginning of civilization. I could define how the term came to be including Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, but a blog by “Slutty Girl” is much more comprehensive: click here for that.

The Kama Sutra is a well-known Hindu text and proof that kinky behavior has been around much longer than some would like us to think. It was written in BCE, and contains what many call “safety rules” of BDSM while others think it is a Kama “love” Sutra “manual.”

Interestingly, the Wall Street Journal says the writing has more to do with psychology and the art of maintaining/keeping a relationship than it does sex. Nevertheless, a “feature film” is coming out soon, about a brothel specializing in Kama Sutra techniques.

A couple hundred years after the sex manual, the people of Pompeii seem to be using some of its techniques. Erotica from that period shows flogging, and a lot more. I could show you but Huffington Post has already compiled the best examples of ANCIENT KINKY and EROTIC art.

Kinky sex existed, usually hidden before the 1970s until Betty Page became the iconic BDSM pinup girl, fostering the beginning of kinky naughtiness in film.

Tampabay.com lists “Last Tango in Paris” (1972) as a must-see for those interested in submission and dominance, or Quills, starring Kate Winslet.

The point is, BDSM and kinky sex haven’t BECOME popular, it has evolved so that people no longer have to hide the fetishes that were once considered deviant and abnormal. We now live in a world that encourages us to fulfill desires as long as they are legal and as the Kama Sutra says: do it only with people “who enjoy such things.”

We haven’t grown to include kinky, we have evolved to not hide it anymore and seek out others who are the YIN to our YANG or rather, the SUB to our DOM.

I dare say there is a growing mass of humans that are fueling the adaptation of purpose-serving fetish websites designed to help the dominant find the submissive and vice versa. These once hidden kinky lifestyles have persevered through ages and now have their own anomalies within their ‘norm” communities.

For example, just when you think you know everything about BDSM, (there’s a giver and receiver) you learn about topping from the bottom: the submissive is really the boss, getting the sexual, er… gratification that they desire with the dominant TOP just doing the submissive’s predetermined will.

Or, did you know there is a thing called ALPHA-SUBMISSIVE? Sounds conflicting right? It’s a submissive who hands over control to the dominant she chooses, sometimes while also having her own submissive(s.) I suppose it may be similar to the hierarchy within polyamorous households?

What is polyamory you ask? Monogamy is one partner, polygamy is multiple partners. Like the others, it evolved to include many different types of polyamory. This too is becoming normalized, but it isn’t just dominant males with harems of women. Woman have stables now.

I will leave you with the trailer for the movie “Savages,” featuring three beautiful main characters that are in a poly relationship…