UNITED STATES—“When the wicked spirits have ruined in a soul the edifice of virtue, they sap its foundation, which is faith.”
It has been more than a century since theologian Father Michael Muller wrote that sentence, yet it can be applied to what is happening with the souls of our children NOW. They reside in brains that are unequipped to function in this world because their personality was never nurtured in the first place.
Freud wanted to understand the structure that builds the personality.
Jung agreed with Freud that childhood experiences determined future behavior, but future aspirations motivate.
Bandura wanted to prove personality was built upon learned behaviors.
Allport studied how the difference in personality boiled down to the many different traits an individual possessed.
Erickson believed there were discernible stages that the development occurred.
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs estimates only 1 in 100 people are “complete” and that was many decades ago.
Freud and Erickson differed on beliefs regarding the role of society and culture to the developing ego, but both believed in the Epigenic principle, which simplypsychology.com explains; “personality develops in a predetermined order, and builds upon each previous stage.”
That is an easy sentence to read and pass, but I think we need to stop and evaluate it.
Things are done in stages because previous experience shows it to be the most beneficial and/or long-lasting method. If errors occur during development, personality traits will continue to develop improperly. Result will be negative traits, personality disorder, etc.
An adult with a non-supportive brain, mind, psyche, soul, PERSONALITY.
Deborah Rose, a psychiatrist that worked with PTSD sufferers for more than 40 years, explains on NPR that trauma during childhood “leads to a kind of hypertrophy and distortion of the normal, otherwise developing personality.”
Quite simply, they’ve never been taught the life-reinforcing essential personality traits.
The blank slate or “Tabula Rasa” theory that children are a blank slate that learn by being taught, goes all the way back to B.C. and Aristotle. MUCH research has been done into the many different aspects of the personality.
TAKE MY WORD FOR IT WHEN I TELL YOU THERE ARE 100s OF OTHER PROFESSIONALS WHO HAVE STATED THE SAME WITH BOTH QUALITATIVE AND QUANTITATIVE PROOF.
How can America teach that children are a blank teachable slate, but then NOT blame the people in control of teaching that child…
BEFORE SCHOOL STARTS!
If psyche is to the brain as the bones are to the body, then personality traits inside the mind should be compared to vitamins: the more balanced with them we are, the better our chances for success.
“We all agree that we cannot solve a problem this complex until we agree it exists,” said David Sanders, chairman of the federal Commission to Eliminate Child Abuse and Neglect Fatalities.
I guess this means we need to agree that NOT ONLY is personality as important as a child’s growing bones, but LACK of parenting creates children with insufficient personality that are at times forced to become a burden on government assistance before the age of 18.
Besides avoiding all common-sense personality-crippling factors like physical, sexual, and psychological abuses – there are a couple of things a parent should think about when considering what it takes to create the strongest possible personality for their child. It can be little things that make all the difference and give him or her an advantage over many other children.
Research that shows rapists search out the submissive, making young subservient women a target. To be respectful is one thing, to be a pushover is something different.
I read a theory I can no longer find, that says forcing children to sit on laps when they do not want to (Santa, Easter Bunny, relative) teaches them to go against their gut instinct or intuition, and effects the developing personality.
Lastly, start your own research reading about the habits of Olympian athlete parents, LIVE SCIENCE’S 10 Scientific Tips For raising Happy Kids, or what NOT to do with The Atlantic’s 12 Ways to Mess Up Your Kids.